Capricorn Mistress

Capricorn is the sign of authority and ambition. Saturn’s drive for material mastery is readily expressed in that most physical of physical-plane activities, sex. Capricorn lies on the projective, paternal end of the “mama/papa” authority axis, and has a strong influence on sexual preferences.

For one thing, depending on where Capricorn falls in the chart, it’s often a clear indicator of BDSM tastes. As counterintuitive as it may seem, Capricorn Suns (and sometimes Capricorn Ascendants) often like to be dominated, and dominated completely, in the bedroom. If this seems odd, think of the proverbial hard-driving executive who secretly visits a dominatrix for various forms of discipline, bondage, and sadomasochistic release. While urban myths like these are often completely goofy in many ways, they can sometimes contain a grain of truth.

In this case, the grain of truth is that Saturn is a hard master, and creates a tremendous amount of internal pressure in those he rules. Many Capricorns do find release through complete sexual abandonment; long-term relationships sometimes take the form of a total power exchange, in which the Capricorn in question is relieved of all non-public responsibilities by becoming a slave at home.

However, this sign can be surprising in more ways than one; it behaves somewhat differently elsewhere in the chart. Venus, Mars, and (sometimes) the Moon in Capricorn are likelier to create a dominant partner than a submissive one. There are differences in how Capricorn influences men and women, too. Strong Capricorn influences are found in the charts of countless lesbians (dominant or not) as well as in the charts of heterosexual women who are direct, projective, and unwilling to compromise themselves simply because they’re women. In the study of gender variance in women, Saturn is key.

[ad]But what about those Capricorns who don’t necessarily like ropes, chains, and strap-ons? Even the most vanilla-seeming Goat will have distinct sexual preferences, usually about who’s on top. Once you get them to open up — and they can be reticent at first — Capricorns are direct, vigorous lovers. Experimentation isn’t Capricorn’s forte; they’re more likely to exhibit stamina and persistence than imagination. This is not necessarily a bad thing; while other lovers may move too quickly to something more interesting (like sleep, or a tuna sandwich) Capricorn is still there, taking care of business.

Spontaneous sensuality can suffer, though. Capricorn is very goal-oriented, and it’s tough to make them to understand that an orgasm is not a directive — sometimes, it’s merely a happy side effect. They tend to treat orgasm like a mountain peak that they must reach, as plodding or uncomfortable as the trip may become. However, most Capricorns are also sensitive lovers — in their way — and if you can distract them from their achievement fixation, you can usually help them understand your need for undirected sensual play.

Capricorn is a sexually complex sign, and no matter where it falls in a chart, it’ll tend to add a taste for the rougher stuff. If you fancy a partner who is either decidedly dominant or decidedly submissive — Capricorn rarely switches — find someone with this influence. Which will you get, though? The implacable top or the demanding bottom? Well, look at it this way — finding out is half the fun.

About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?