Aquarian Mistress

Aquarius is well-known as the most unconventional sign of the Zodiac; they often make for friendly, quirky lovers who are open to almost anything. But this is not a personal sign, and their detachment can be puzzling; Aquarius is motivated primarily by mental concepts, rather than sex or sentiment. Where another sign might try a swinger’s club primarily for sexual satisfaction, an Aquarian will join because “It’s clearly wrong for society to place such rigid social strictures on something as natural as sex, and we should all do our part to fight these ridiculous man-made restrictions.” Another sign might use that as a truly imaginative justification, but Aquarius means it. Really.

Once things move away from an abstract level, though, it gets dicey. Dealing with irrational urges like love and personal attraction is tricky for WaterBearers; their love lives are often erratic at best. Aquarian sexual preference is always a highly personalized affair; the “normal” rules of engagement don’t apply. You’ll find them in open relationships, long-distance relationships, cyber relationships, asexual relationships — in short, relationships that others find quite puzzling. This is Uranus we’re talking about — if it makes sense to the Aquarian in question, that’s all that matters.

Like their Air sign counterparts Gemini and Libra, Aquarians don’t necessarily have a strong, insistent physical sex drive, but they’re certainly not libido-less. Aquarian Suns with a strong Mars (such as in AriesScorpio, or Capricorn) will be as lusty as anyone, even if a bit quirky. But the Aquarian Mars is perhaps the most unconventional sexual indicator of all — so unconventional, in fact, that some folks with this Mars bypass sex altogether, at least at times. Aquarian Mars (and sometimes Venus and the Moon) is able to easily and satisfactorily channel sexual urges into cerebral outlets; extended periods of voluntary celibacy are not uncommon.

Oddly, some of them have strong, near-conscious inhibitions, thanks to their co-ruler Saturn. It’s useless to try to help an Aquarian through a sexual problem by using flattery, coercion, or emotional appeal; rational discussion is the only thing that works. Essentially, your job is to debate the matter endlessly as she works through every mental objection she has to whatever off-the-wall thing it is she’s clearly going to do anyway. (Aquarian logic applied to that least logical of all processes, human sexuality, can be monumentally infuriating.) But once their own objections are addressed, look out — there’s nothing a de-inhibited Aquarian won’t do, at least once.

Aquarius is an intriguing sign, to say the least; loving an Aquarian-influenced person is a unique experience, and no one makes it through unchanged. If you can gracefully accept the cerebral detachment, the out-of-the-blue experimental ideas, and the stubborn Uranian unpredictability, you’ll never lack for stimulating company. Aquarians will only accept lovers who are as unique and strong-minded as they are; they don’t want a sheep or a yes-man, they want a mental companion who will courageously question the whole world, if need be. Above all else, they’re looking for a friend. “Best friends with benefits” describes Aquarian relationships perfectly, even if they’ve lasted forty years — and how rare and special is that?

About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?